If we are lucky enough to experience this kind of love once in our lives, we will be forever changed and forever cracked open.
Awaken lovers live with passion and desire. With awareness of their inner worth and stability in their hearts. They see beauty in the world, and colours so bright. Creation bursting from their souls, as inner pain departs.
Awaken lovers lean into the teachings that expand from their unity. Never hiding in fear, never running from their truth. Cracked open within surrender, this love is forever.
What Type of Connection is That of The Awakened Lovers?
This type of love is bigger than karmic lovers. It is stronger than soul mates. And are as dynamic as twin flames. A beautiful love that has the power to reveal wounding, to heal, to transform, and to bring out one’s true self.
There is often a push-pull energy between these lovers like that of twin flames. This is due to the intensity of the healing that can take place. Facing one’s inner wounding can be confronting; therefore, a survival response resulting in the pushing away can occur. Blaming the other for making us feel pain. When in fact, this is an offering of magic that we cannot see alone.
Then comes the gorgeous sensation of the pull. Pulling in our partner to support us as we face our shadow, to hold us in a space that is safe. Here is where the work begins; here is where we discover transformation.
Within the container of this union, life-changing inner work, self-awareness, self-love, and forgiveness can occur.
Why Are They Called Awaken Lovers?
This love is for the soul seekers, the rebels, the quest lovers, and freedom fighters of the world. This is love for those who are on this earth to create change. For those who see beyond the norm, beyond our taught limitations of love and self-acceptance. These lovers must be brave enough to step into their darkest shadows and surrender to their healing, with enough love in their hearts to support each other as they evolve and expand together.
This partnership is intense to begin with. It is filled with passion, fire, soulful love, pain, tears, and deep surrender. There is a deep reverence for each other that is beyond this world.
How Can You Prepare and Attract Your Awakened Lover?
Take time to go within and do some inner inquiry. Search your soul, discover your wounding, and ask your inner child what they need to feel loved. The beauty of unlocking your authentic vulnerability, and cleaning out the pain from the past, will allow room for another connection to come in.
Explore Inner Child Work
Many of us carry wounds from childhood. No matter how loving your parents may have been, we all had times when our needs were not met or felt overlooked. These wounds come out to play in our romantic relationships. Inner child work is powerful and life-changing experience. A great exercise is to meditate, get centered and ask your inner child what they require to feel loved, worthy, seen and heard. Listen, hold, and receive this love your inner child needs.
Accept Yourself as You Are
Learn to love yourself as you are in every moment: the good and the bad days. Love yourself as you go through your shadow work and as you dance in your own light. Forgive yourself for past events and present altercations as they occur. Remember, we are all doing the best we can every day. And as they say,” you cannot love another until you love yourself”.
Discover What Lights You Up and What Soothes Your Soul
When we have a passion in life, a purpose, we light up from within. We can focus on ourselves and feel a sense of achievement every day that is separate from anyone else. Unlock your passions and put yourself first unapologetically. What soothes your soul, relaxes your nervous system, and helps you feel centred? If you are unsure how to soothe your nervous system, you will look outside of yourself for love and acceptance? This is dangerous territory.
Explore what feels good for you. I have a daily practice of any of the following; breath work, meditation, cacao ceremony, nature walks and dancing. Change it up each day based on how you are feeling. Have fun and feel good; this is not another thing to put on your to-do list.
Once Connected to Your Lover, How Do You Thrive Together?
Communicate, communicate, communicate. This is the key to staying grounded, connected and growing together. Communicate your needs, your boundaries, your triggers as they arise and how you would like your lover to meet you in every stage as you evolve.
Be present. Put the phone away, turn the noise from the world off and be present with each other when you can. The distractions in life can cause separation without awareness. Two people can be in the same room but so far apart. It’s essential for this loving connection to remain present as much as possible. Simple things like holding hands, touching often, eye gazing, and listening without judgement or a response. Being present is a superpower that is often forgotten in relationships.
Play as much as you can. Have fun, be childlike, enjoy each other immensely, let go of the everyday drama and surrender to your delicious, sensual, loving energy together. Soak up the intensity of your love and passion together. Have regular date nights, explore each other, and embrace this union often.
Forgive yourself. Whenever you are triggered within this relationship and fall into a reactive response, forgive yourself. Recognise it, communicate this trigger–action pattern with your lover, and then go into its learning.
Continue to work on yourself, by yourself. Personal growth does not stop once committed to your lover. Spend time on your own out in nature, with meditation groups or find a good spiritual coach. The more you go within, the more you will receive from your lover.
Support each other, even during the ugly times. As this is a deep connection, it will be rocky at times. But this is not something to fear. The rocky times are the teachings, and they do not need to be uncomfortable. Hold each other, talk, dance together, move your bodies, journal together. Most importantly, hold space for each to safely dive deep into the teachings at hand.
Through passion, desire, support, and love. Rebel lovers are united in their growth individually and as a couple. Together they can create a life ever-expanding. This love is the creator of life and beauty. Enjoy every moment in a loving embrace.
Kristy Louise
Kristy Louise is the founder of Soulful Expressions, a business designed to bring communities together while sharing their love of alternative healing practices. Through a beautiful blend of naturopathy, herbal medicine, NLP, breathwork, meditation, ceremonies, etc. Kristy facilitates and guides transformations without the showy gimmicks, all intuitively guided and in the hands of the participant.
