Have you ever had a situation that triggers you?
When I say trigger, I mean you feel it deep down to your core, and it feels like your heart and soul ache in unison. One of those times that brings such an emotional response that tears stream from your eyes for hours, your body aches so much that breathing hurts and when people’s comfort slides off, you like water down the glass.
Do you recognise one of these moments?
I’ve had one of those moments.
In these moments, emotions take us on a journey where we would not rationally go. We will do and say things that are out of character. Maybe we yell, scream, or lash out in some other way. In these moments, all we can sense is the pain felt. And as we do, we’ll drop into our shadow self.
Then from nowhere, while in our shadow, a crack appears in the pain and our awareness moves to what caused the pain. That is, what someone did or said, which took us on this painful journey. It’s still all about us, though. The only difference now is we’ve lifted our heads from the depth of despair to acknowledge where the anguish originated from.
This is the moment we need to pause, but we don’t. We are not connected to our consciousness but rather our shadow. In this space, we seek to bring balance to the situation. Our version of balance, anyway. Once again, this may be saying or doing something that we regret.
For those on a spiritual or awakening journey, we’ll recognise our shadow experience because this is where remorse later appears.
In these moments, we focus on what has been projected towards us. But not a different perspective on the “why” this is happening. Understanding and acceptance of another person’s journey lie in the unravelling of their internal story.
Here it’s one of our growth opportunities; with awareness and compassion for another person’s “why,” we can release ourselves from our own pain. As another person can only be and do the best they are capable of at that present time. True, this may not be what we hope. But they can only give us what they are able to give.
- Someone cannot give trust and honesty if they are in fear.
- They can’t give love and empathy if their own pain blocks these feelings.
- They cannot honour our feelings if they are disconnected from their own.
- They cannot respect us if they do not descry respect.
- They cannot let you be heard or seen if they, too, feel they have not been heard or seen.
So, I remind you again that it is unjust to expect someone to be more than they are. And with that realization, we can release our own suffering. With all that said, I have already given you the magic source for future triggers. Did you notice?
It’s the pause.
The pause will short-circuit the energy stream experienced and halt your shadow from taking the lead in the situation.
- When you’re triggered in the future, remove yourself from the situation or conversation.
- Ground your energy with a walk outside alone. No phone – no music – no company.
- Feel what you need to feel for as long as you need to feel it. Whilst intentionally processing and shifting the energy from your body with every step you take.
- Process verbally all the things you want to say but shouldn’t or can’t. Do this by saying them to yourself as if you’re having the conversation you need to have.
It’s done as you walk.
Get it out of you and let it go.
Take as long as you need. If this means you walk for 2 hours, then you walk for 2 hours.
At the end of the walk, once you feel the energy gone, visualize yourself unhooking a cord or rope from you, which releases your connection to the situation.
Hold the intention of wrapping the cord or rope in loving pink healing energy, and watch it slowly disappear.
Then cleanse your energy with a luxurious bath or shower, allowing the last remaining energy to be washed away.
We all have moments in life that create the opportunity to learn and grow.
Growth sits in the pause and creates the space to respond differently than our reflex action.
Bronwyn Jane
Bronwyn Jane is an International Psychic Medium and Spiritual Coach. She is internationally certified as a psychic, medium, and healer with LWISSD and holds certificates in Parapsychology and Advanced Metaphysics. She also is a qualified meditation teacher, holistic counsellor, and life coach. Bronwyn is the founder and principal of the Psychic Mediumship College.
