Empowered Healing: What Impedes People’s Healing

When it comes to healing, much of the information can overlap due to the complexity and intertwining nature of human emotions, choices, relationships and life experiences. It is all connected, like a web, if you will. In this issue, I would like to discuss a few of the reasons that impede healing.

Negativity

Negativity has a low and dense vibration. Therefore, speaking or behaving negatively, having malicious or angry thoughts and intentions, or having a negative outlook on life blocks energetic flow and healing energy. It creates blocks that affect your chances of healing and getting what you want.

Spending a lot of time with negative people will also have an impact on your healing. Everyone shares space and all energies intermingle, so when you are around negative people, remnants of their energy will be left in your energy field creating or compounding on blocks in your aura.

The universal law of attraction hears and gives you more of where you choose to spend most of your time, approaching all these factors with more kindness and love will raise your vibration.

Change

Change is necessary to get different outcomes. The problem arises when people stay the same yet expect a different result. The two most common reasons I have experienced this happening with clients is that they are either not willing to change or fear change itself.

For change to occur you must alter and adjust your thoughts, actions, intentions and decisions. These are the things that attract a different result.

Fears

Many fears impede healing. As mentioned earlier, fear of change is very common. There is also fear of being strong and independent, fear of being healed and healthy, and fear of being alone.

A person who fears change may not try anything new to better their life. For example, if a person fears change more than illness, they may enter a pattern of postponing changes that need to be made with illness, self-sabotaging themselves.

Many associate being strong and independent with being alone, which conveys that you can make a choice and not settle for whatever happens in life. To heal requires strength because it means that you must challenge many parts of yourself, including those that have always been your way of communicating with people. This can be intimidating for psychologically wounded people.

People who fear being alone may find comfort in attending groups. Whilst this may be beneficial for some, others may develop a neediness for a group that becomes solely based on being wounded in some way so that they are not alone. They believe that if they change their support and community will disappear. The problem with this is that it can fuel illness rather than being an effort to recover health.

Illness

Illness is a powerful way to get attention that you might not otherwise receive, therefore, almost becoming attractive to people who get no attention. It can then be used as leverage and when this negative attention transpires it is not beneficial for healing at all.

Illness can also convey a message that you have to change your life. Taking you on a path of growth and learning which leads to a deep connection with the self and a higher power.

Wounds

Many people use trauma to identify themselves. They define themselves and their life by a negative experience which weakens the physical and spiritual energy of a person and leads to a higher risk of illness.

They may develop an expectation of how supportive family and friends must behave. They choose to surround themselves with people and/or groups who have the same experiences and prefer this company as they share the same mindset and language. Caroline Myss calls this ‘Woundology’.

Groups are good for support and healing, but it is also good to eventually move on and not let the experience define you any longer. This is not abandoning your healing or your group, it creates empowerment and a new future that is in alignment with your healed self.

Victim and Denial

Victim and denial are very similar. These people usually blame their circumstances, experiences and people for their condition or situation. Those in denial develop their identity around trauma and see themselves as a victim. They may be afraid of letting go of blame and their identity because they do not know themselves outside of that.

The victim often makes statements and asks questions such as; What did I do to deserve this? Why do all bad things happen to me? Nobody cares or understands what I am going through, etcetera.

These people usually refuse to let go of the past. You can empower yourself by losing the blame game and just focusing on your part in the story. It can be confronting, but necessary to empower yourself to heal.

Belief

People in this category do not believe they can heal. Either because they have lost hope that they will ever heal or believe they are not worthy of healing. They may have been told repeatedly that they will never heal or be the same physically or emotionally and that further instils these beliefs.

My experience with clients in their healing sessions has covered all the above. A significant element in healing is taking responsibility for your life by letting go of the negative belief that your life is defined by your wounds and embracing change.

Although some people are genuinely not ready to face their pain and trauma, by familiarizing yourself with the blocks you can do some quiet introspection to discern whether the healing process is being blocked or you just need more time to deal with it.

As I mention often, awareness is a powerful component that brings vast insight that aids healing and transformation.

The beauty of Forensic Healing and energy therapies is that they can help shift the smaller blocks which builds your energy, strength and mental clarity to then address the bigger issues.

“The heartiest plants survive because they weather the
storm and never stop reaching for the light.”
~ Robert Clancy ~

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Karina Barca, Our Expert

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Karina Barca is a Melbourne-based Medium, Healer, Psychic, Reiki Master Teacher, Mentor, Forensic Healing Practitioner and Facilitator of ‘Sistahood Sundays’. Through her own healing and empowerment journey, her passion became very clear. To serve, inspire and assist all who want to grow, heal, and evolve.