How often have you not been true to your sacred self-expression because fear got in the way? We’re talking specifically about relationships here, whether it be a family member, friend, partner, colleague, or anyone else you have regular communication and contact with.
One way we do this is by not asking for what we want. Either we assume we know what the other person is going to say or have some fearful thoughts about the consequences.
Either way, the truth is we can’t ever know for sure. We might think we know based on past experience. But none of us can ever really know until we have the conversation. If you’ve struggled to express yourself in the past – as I have – you’ll know it requires a big juicy dose of courage!
And if you’ll go quantum with me for a second… just the very act of our assumption actually holds that potential outcome in place. If we assume the worst, we literally grant the space for that to occur. If we assume the opposite, however, we have a powerful influence over a much more favourable, or even ‘magic wand scenario’, outcome to unfold. We really DO get to be the creators of our reality! We just have to choose it and be courageous enough to hold our belief and energy in that possibility.
Another way we hold back in our truest expression is by avoiding the conversation altogether. We are afraid of the confrontation, the discomfort, and the feelings of unease from either side. Especially if you are a sensitive soul or consider yourself an empath (like me) who feels other people’s feelings! So we have swallowed our truth. We’ve ‘kept the peace’. We’ve tried not to ruffle any feathers. All of which are not sustainable long term.
We are not responsible for how someone else responds, reacts, or feels about what we have to express. Sometimes our truth is exactly what the other person needs to hear for their own evolution and growth – even if it is initially resisted or rejected.
Our triggers are our teachers to transcend. If we continually avoid triggering people, how will they ever meet their greatest teacher?
More importantly, this robs us – and therefore the people around us – of the opportunity for REAL connection. If someone doesn’t get the chance to hear our sacred truth, they won’t ever be able to know or love us for who we really are. We end up living a watered-down version of life that feels exhausting to maintain. Because it’s like living a lie, an illusory version of the life we came here to live. We all want raw, authentic, unfiltered truth and connection – so we must play our own part in that.
If someone does not love or appreciate us for speaking our truth, then do we really want them in our life? Sometimes this is a hard pill to swallow. Maybe it’s someone extremely close to you, like your partner or a family member. Perhaps it’s been so long since you shared yourself fully that you don’t know who that is anymore.
Here is your invitation to find out. To speak your truth. To embody your fullest, most sacred self-expression. To have the hard conversations, embrace the discomfort, and – as always – be all of who you are and came here to be. In my experience, this has led to some of my life’s most uplifting, empowering, and intimate connections. I trust the same will be true for you!
Narelle Clyde, Our Expert
Narelle Clyde is a Spiritual Mentor, Retreat Facilitator and #1 Bestselling Author with a passion for guiding others around the globe back to their most authentic self. Since a young age, Narelle has channelled a neo-ancient energetic healing modality that speaks directly to the soul, deeply activating the light within.
- Narelle Clyde, Our Expert
- Narelle Clyde, Our Expert
- Narelle Clyde, Our Expert
- Narelle Clyde, Our Expert
