Owning Your Emotional Sovereignty

Owning your emotional sovereignty is the ability to be in your power. When we are in our power, we are firm in our boundaries, connected with our soul, and tapped into our intuition. We feel the freedom to make decisions without external influence. We also have a deep sense of confidence in and understanding of ourselves that is free from fear, doubt or unhealthy compromise. Learning how to own your emotional sovereignty is one of the most important aspects of life. It helps you follow your soul path, by bringing more happiness and abundance into your life. But for those of us who have no idea how to own our emotional sovereignty, what can we do to empower ourselves and stand strong in our light?

Visualise yourself as a powerful being, sitting upon the throne that exists deep within the space of your soul. She is beautiful and powerful and holds herself with dignity and grace. Others’ opinions do not sway her, nor does she wear their emotions. She does not exist simply to please others. She has a strong connection with her own needs and desires. She knows what serves her purpose and what doesn’t. She is completely relaxed in her power, fuelled by wisdom and love. How would she face challenging situations and people in her life?

When we are not connected with this higher power within us, we are susceptible to external narratives, viewpoints and agendas that run counter to our needs and desires. We find that we over-extend ourselves or compromise our values to please others. The actions we take do not represent our true inner world, and this continual conflict keeps our frequency low. We find ourselves experiencing more negative emotions like sadness, frustration and loneliness. We choose to numb ourselves to the pain, quieting the voice inside that is crying out for help. Slowly we lose our joy, our happiness, and our soul path because we have lost our emotional sovereignty.

Reclaiming your power can be a lifelong lesson. Sometimes you will feel that you are sitting high on your throne, only to have an experience that knocks you off and leaves you feeling shaken and unsure of yourself. We all can experience this when we encounter the inevitable challenges that life throws at us. By learning some skills that you can exercise when the outside world feels like it is pressing in on you, you will find the courage to stand true within your value system, with no apologies. Here are some ways that will help you let go of limiting behaviours and beliefs that keep you resonating at a low frequency. They will allow you to stand strong in your emotional sovereignty.

Be clear about your boundaries – Let go of what others expect of you and listen to your heart. When you can shut out the external noise, you can tap into your feelings and emotions, giving you a chance to acknowledge and honour them.
Embrace your emotions – Many of us are battling with a deep soul wound because we have grown up feeling ashamed of our feelings. We try to hide and suppress them. The outside world may have neglected your emotional well-being, so now you need to pour love into these deep parts of yourself to get in touch with your soul’s true longings. Your emotions are always valid and worthy.
Treat yourself with respect – Are you kind to yourself when you make a mistake? Do you regularly practice self-forgiveness? Take the time to be gentle with yourself and understand that finding your sovereignty can take time and a lot of courage to be yourself truly. Know that you deserve love from yourself and others.
You don’t have to feel guilty – When you begin acknowledging your needs and desires, other people may resist because you will start to run counter to what they expect of you. We are not responsible for other people’s emotions. Please realise that the only person you owe is yourself.

The journey towards your emotional sovereignty can be a painful one, because it may require you to cut ties with former belief systems and people in your life. It also requires you to delve deep and confront the pain, needs and desires you have pushed aside. Staying with what is familiar can feel safe, but your personal growth will suffer. Instead, listen to your inner voice because it will always direct you towards your soul’s true purpose.

We all need to pour love into our emotional wounds to heal the relationship we have with ourselves.

When you confront your shadow self, you allow yourself to work through the pain, making room for emotional freedom. This, in turn, paves the way to a more conscious awareness of ourselves, and this is where our emotional sovereignty thrives.