We are all familiar with the concept of devil vs. angel on your shoulder, the good cop vs. bad cop internal narrative. This can be a common occurrence for many. Let’s introduce some tools to use, to reframe your inner self-critic and activate your self-love. These tools are to equip you with options, and please feel free to use them whenever and however it feels right to you.
Why is identifying your inner self-critic important? There is a golden value in bringing our unconscious belief systems into our conscious awareness. Now let’s address how self-love plays such a critical part in our being.
Our relationship with self sets the standard for all of the other relationships we engage in, in our life. During our lifetime, there are many influences that we experience and take on that model our mindset, and belief systems.
Did you know, that we choose to subscribe to external influences and take ownership of them as a part of our belief system? Initially, this may be something that you do subconsciously, and now it is time to take action and bring those unconscious beliefs, to the forefront of your conscious mind, so that you can challenge and change those beliefs.
Running negative and outdated belief systems creates a supportive environment to doubt our self-worth, to continue building negative beliefs, and also to absorb the potential negative energy/comments/beliefs projected onto you, by others.
- Tool 1: Recognise the voice, it is a voice, and it is not your reality. It is a narrative that has been written as your current program, through past experiences and influences. You can rewrite your program, and you can change your narrative. A narrative is a storyline after all, and in this instance, you are the voiceover.
- Tool 2: Find your tool to PAUSE. This is how you will train yourself to act in sequence, once you recognise the voice (step one), next comes the pause. Your pause is decided by you, it may be a deep breath, an affirmation, a moment of gratitude etc. What is important here, is that you consciously choose to pause, which allows your mind a moment to reset. From here we can recalibrate. By implementing a deep breath (pause) after you have recognised the voice, this action puts you in a position to reset and take action.
- Tool 3: Acknowledge the past. The feelings you are experiencing are from past experiences and influences. Define it as the past. Remind yourself that you can leave it there, in the past. The feeling does not need to continue into the present or future. You decide, you have the power to make that decision.
- Tool 4: Challenge the narrative. What is it saying? Create examples of times and experiences where this wasn’t true, and it can be a small example. If you are feeling overwhelmed in the moment and find it tricky to challenge this narrative, through a personal example of your own, create a new one- try it on.
- Tool 5: Gratitude. Always return to gratitude, return home to love. Reaffirm things that you are grateful for in that current moment. It could be personal, it could be general, and the significance is to recalibrate your energy to the frequency of love. It can be gratitude for the sunshine, gratitude for the relationships in your life, or gratitude for the opportunity to change your belief system.
Allow yourself to find joy in the process of self-improvement.
Each day we have new opportunities to check in with ourselves, to change and improve our current belief systems if they are no longer aligned. To activate and expand our love for self. Truly what a blessing that is, to be able to grow our connection with self throughout all chapters of our lives. The ability to learn more and more about ourselves.
You are magic, you are perfect just as you are.
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Jasmine Gatt, Our Expert
Jasmine Gatt is an Intuitive Self Love Coach, Reiki Master, psychic intuitive, hypnosis, NLP & ECT practitioner. Jasmine believes that returning home to ourselves and creating a loving relationship with self is the way forward. With an open heart, she continues to learn and grow, constantly seeking more knowledge and new pathways to guide herself and others.
- Jasmine Gatt, Our Expert
- Jasmine Gatt, Our Expert
- Jasmine Gatt, Our Expert
- Jasmine Gatt, Our Expert
